Identity is very important virtue to teach a child. This is part of a series to teach children to embrace who they are as unique individuals. Self confidence is not so natural, some never expect to do anything much and will peg themselves at just about the level of either society or self-expectations.
Sandcastle: Hiding Ugly Scars
Everyone can write, especially their own story. Have you thought about writing your story? Do you have memories from your past that keep influencing your present? You don’t need to be a prolific writer or even a writer at all, to benefit from writing therapy. The past if not dealt with clearly can have negative influence on the present and the future. Not all of us have access to or can afford professional counsellors to have one to one sessions about what happened in the past that wound us. Through therapeutic reflective writing, we can begin to invite a deeper truth to surface. All you need is a piece of paper, a pen, and the motivation to write. Choose the format you wish to write: • An expressive reflective biography • A poem • A letter to specific individuals If you feel still stuck in your past to some degree, and find influences from your past constantly affecting your present decisions and choices in life, why not try therapeutic writing about it. You do not have to publish your story. You can choose animosity, and I will guarantee you absolute confidentiality over a secure online portal. Together we will explore the lessons and outcomes around your story, cry together, pray and laugh together. All on a secure safe, online platform with no deadlines to publish. Therapeutic writing is a tool that can help you make sense of the past, explore current experiences, and make plans to experience life through a healthier perspective. This book is the second of my application of therapeutic writing. Sandcastles: Hiding ugly scars explores the mindset during a brief but painful broken marriage and bad choices. It also explores how my childhood influenced on decision-making and the consequences. This follows Sandcastles: Revealing Beautiful Scars which dealt with how I processed being involved in an accident, having eight repeated surgeries, physical visible wounds, pain, and eventually being healed. Therapeutic writing is not about writing pretty sentences that are grammatically correct. There is value in writing to gain a stronger, clearer, and healthier understanding of one’s self and experiences. Through writing, one can observe cause and effect and understand patterns that might be holding you back. Why not try using therapeutic writing to ask yourself the right tough questions?
Revealing Beautiful scars
Have you ever wondered why we carry scars, if there was a reason? See, I know firsthand how deeply our scars can mar us. They can effect everything we do, how we interact with people, and more importantly how we feel about our self.
Life does unexpectedly cause wounds. When bad things happen, we do not instinctively feel happy and beautiful. I regained consciousness gradually in 48 hours, hair cut off, broken arm, bleeding wounds, confused and in a lot of pain. I did not know where I was or what had happened….. The truth is, in life you never really have total control – but you always have choice of healing, getting back up and moving foward. The wounds healed, eventually, as they do. Physically they do, but what happens to the mind? I have scars to remind me everyday of just how much God loves me. Life plans sometimes overestimate how much control we have, and when plans are derailed we underestimate how much choice we have.
It was in those moments of complete loss of control of my life, ultimate surrender that started the healing process of all my pain and fears. For so long, I only honored only my pain and my sorrow. I lost my smile, less because of the trauma and more because I spent so much time lamenting my scars. Now I really know myself, and I know my voice. It is a voice of pain and victory. I learned patience, perseverance, and endurance. I learnt to listen and trust The One who saved my life that day. Going back and reviewing my journey of healing and a saving God reinforces my confidence in Him and reminds me I can keep going, no matter what challenges I face.
It was in those moments of complete loss of control of my life, ultimate surrender that started the healing process of all my pain and fears. For so long, I only honored only my pain and my sorrow. I lost my smile, less because of the trauma and more because I spent so much time lamenting my scars. Now I really know myself, and I know my voice. It is a voice of pain and victory. I learned patience, perseverance, and endurance. Going back and reviewing my journey of healing and a saving God reinforces my confidence in Him and reminds me I can keep going, no matter what challenges I face.
Jesus could have had flesh that would not scar when it was torn, or at least bear no scars when He was resurrected. Yet to the world, disciples and Thomas needed proof that the resurrection was real, proof of victory. If you have any scars, Praise God! Because He’s given you a means to show the world how He takes care of us and heals us through any means He chooses.
My scars not only marked me physically, but spiritually and emotionally. We may hurt, but we will heal, and there is beauty in our scars. I am completely healed now, inside and out. I can show and talk about my scars. I am not afraid anymore and different levels. The scars made me fit for the life fight!
I renamed my scars beautiful, because that is what they are to me. When I decided they were beautiful, I became beautiful. When I took power away from the negative emotions, my unchangeable traumatic past, I was better able to find joy in the present.
In Revealing Beautiful Scars, I discovered these were my beautiful yet perfect imperfections, because either one is part of that authentic who I am: a survivor, an over comer. You too will become unstoppable when you master and overcome your fears of pain. Then the opposite of your fear will begin to chase you. There is a brighter side of the plan, so stay the course. A wounded deer leaps the highest. Learn to be brave. Practice being brave, and you will be.
Tales of Womanhood Volume 2
Tales of Womanhood is a compilation book series of stories from women across the world derived from true life stories of strength, resilience and courage from their personal life challenges. Featured in this collection are stories of lost hope, scars, health and political journeys that saw women gather strength and victory in their own individual journeys. Foreword by Zoe Bennett. Brenda Dempsey – The Value of Your Golden Thread, Hadassah Esther – Scars, Heidi Marja – When Life Changes, Honourable Memory Mbondiah – The Journey To Sheroe, Michelle Nwosu – Trash To Treasure, Rachel Tracey – Dust Yourself Off and Try Again, Tara Burgin – The Birth of An Entrepreneur, Tsitsi Chipendo – My Health Journal
Write to us
Telephone: + 44 7564 447174